Hey guys are you ready to Kick fear Ass out the door?!?
I know starting a business can be very scary and a hard pill to swallow. But trust me once you push yourself, jump out on faith and go for it your life will definitely be changed.
I’m going to be 100% truthful with you in this article. FEAR can be a big pain in the ass, but you can’t allow it to block you from your destiny. Think of starting something that only you can have pride in doing. Something you can built and become successful with. Now if you really think about it, that sound absolutely amazing and easy, right? But thats not always the case.
Unfortunately for many of us, when we hear the word change, we automatically associate it with negativity and even fear. For example; Change is bad, it is taking us out of our comfort zone. Let me stop there! All those thoughts can hold you back.
I will be talking about how fear can stop you and what I did. I will share some advices of things that I did to keep my mind in a positive state and out of the fear zone.
When it comes down to the benefits my family and I have and all the amazing experiences and opportunity that is yet to come. I could never think to hold my life back anymore from all that is yet to come. My motto has always been; No one can take away anything the good Lord bless you with. Which is your skills and creativity.
I would hate it if I never had the chance to meet different people, find different adventures and be able to help others. Now if you allow fear to take up residence in your head, you would just be stuck doing what you were doing, with no room to improve.
And let’s be honest. It’s hard to not remember all the things that didn’t work out. But also remember you still learned from it right? That allow you to become a new person, it made you stronger and the person you are today is very proud of that, right?. It was hard but it wasn’t worthless and in vain.
I use to ask myself all time why? Why am I holding myself back? Why am I so afraid? Just why? But I came up with some solutions that I use to conqueror the most common fears that inspiring entrepreneurs had.
The fear about experience, finances, the changes, not having a steady income and just the unknown. I’m going to talk about ways I’ve overcome it all and kick fear ass out the door. After, if you take this and implement it. You’re going to use all your emotions to build a successful business of your own.
When I set up my plans of being an entrepreneur mom working online. I needed to write it down, set a goal date and work towards it. Now, when it is time to announce to my family that I’m going to quit my fulltime stable job and become a fulltime entrepreneur mom. I know that is where I will get the strength and encouragement from the most, MY FAMILY.
Even though I enjoy working for my now job there is going to be a time where I need to fully commit to going fulltime to allow my creativity to grow.
My family is very supportive, especially when I am doing something to better my life. That is key, to make sure you have a support system in place. Their words of encouragements and support will give you the strength to push forward. So support is essential to entrepreneurs. Now if you’re thinking, “I don’t have family,” it’s okay there are many supports out there.
I’m happy to say I’m on the road to becoming a fulltime entrepreneur mom (keep a look out for Mommy Hustle Nation, Inc). Fear has no place in my head anymore. Once I feel it and believe it, I’ll go for it.
I’m a planner, organizer, and very head strong. I am also an over thinker. So believe me when I tell you that making the simplest decision to start on the road to be an entrepreneur woman is terrifying. But you have to start somewhere. Even now I have occasional days where I think to myself, someone should have knock me in the head and tell me it’s safer to stay in my regular 9 to 5 where I am guaranteed a paycheck. That darn fear creeping up.
But I wouldn’t changed anything that brought me to this point and what to come.
I wanted to write this blog because I see so many amazing women in my network who are on the edge. I know entrepreneurship is not for everyone, but everyone can be one. Now, let me put this out there. It takes work and dedication, it’s going to be hard at points. You’re going to want to quit, but trust me the end result will be so worth it. I knew I use to be like them, so I hope my story could give them the encouragement to jump. Again, If I can do it, trust me anybody could.
The start of my journey of being a Entrepreneur mom was all trail and errors (a learning curve). What didn’t work I tweak it to work for me. I just want everyone to know YOU’RE NOT ALONE and to help you bypasses fear it self. To allow your curiosity and your creativity to evolve. I do hope you allow yourself to know what’s the best way to start your business ideas.
Lets get start; what better way kick off this article that with your goals. Ask yourself this; what are you hoping to accomplish as an entrepreneur?!?!
So my advice to you is, DON’T STALL AT YOUR GOAL:
There is nothing wrong with hanging around til it’s the right time. We all know that fear is doing everything to block you from starting. But sorry to say at some point in time it has to stop. At some point you’ve just got to dive in with both feet and commit.
Don’t think about the what if, just set a goal, make a plan, even taking webinars and notes can help overcome your fear to help you be more motivated to start your business. It all comes with planning.
If you want to work through your fears in a practical and purposeful way then you can read Start Your Own Business, Fifth Edition: The Only Start-Up Book You’ll Ever Need. It will help you get an idea on where to start and what to do next. This book has help me to make plans for one of my business and follow through with it.
Now lets talk about fear and how to drop it like a bad habit.
- Having Fear of the Unknown:
One of the amazing things about online businesses is that there are business owners of all shapes, sizes, and ages. However, many of us are coming from backgrounds that you probably can’t relate, or linked to their new business venture.
Even if you are starting something in the niche you have come up with, the online space offers a lot of new challenges, new technology and new ways of working.
So the fear of the unknown will always be there. For examples; Starting a new job is always nerve wracking, right?. So, when I started my new job in the human service field. I had worked with mentally ill clients for over 10 years, but, I was still nervous but fairly confident that I knew roughly what I was doing. I also know when I’m hit with a challenge I go head on and make it successfully. That’s just me.
When I started writing for my blog. I had no formal training and any idea on how to start. I later went on to complete several different articles that have been successful and has help people. I always had fears that no one will read what I wrote. And the big issue was my writing will be bad. Being a native from the islands, English was not and still not my strong point. I feared no one would like it, and no one would understand due to grammatical errors. But that did not stop me as you can see. I immediately nip that in the butt. Because, I learnt as I went and I don’t like things to control me. Once I made a jump, people positive responses sure made me to feel proud and it help it to get easier (there goes that support).
I didn’t do all the courses and training and then start up my business. I learnt enough to get me started and then I learned as I go. Hey, life is a learning experience and you’re learning as you age. Because I know if I told myself to wait until I learned everything, or until I get a degree, or until I feel comfortable. I will never start, so learning on the go is the best thing for me.
And here’s a secret guys. Being Uncomfortable is good, it is okay to test your limits, trust me it will feel so empowering. There is nothing better that feeling the fire under you and knowing that the only way out is if you do something about it. Think about it this, when you do something good as a child. Your parents reward you, right? Same affect with your buisness. When you start it, nurture it and watch it grow to a multibillion company. It’s going drive you and it’s going to motivate you to want to do better and learn more.
Being comfortable in business means that you are not growing and you just maybe left behind really quick. So don’t fear and panic, use that fear fuel you to make sure your business is the absolute best you can make it.
• Fear of Yourself: Only you can stop yourself and only you can make you better:
This is where you know you have to take that leap of faith and GET STARTED and do something. When you know what you want and need. You want to work for yourself but you don’t want to quit what you’re doing just yet. I have some good and bad news on this front.
The good news is that many, many entrepreneurs have been there. I know I have and I know many people, friends, mentors and idols that have all been down the same path. But once we know what our purpose is in life, then the hustle will never stop.
The bad news is that, the only sure way of finding out whether something is for you, is to just do it. I know that sounds kind of difficult and very daunting but let me say, even if you find out that business isn’t for you. Your time won’t be wasted. I went through quite a few businesses ideas before I realized what my calling was. And that is to help people. When I did find my niche, I had already learnt what works, through trial and error. ( like Aaliyah song “If first you don’t succeed pick yourself up try again, dust yourself off and try again”). From the fear of doing a page layout design, to the technical aspect of managing an email list. You need to always pick yourself up and keep going.
- Fear of Finances: This can be the killer, it can make you or brake you:
As someone who works for a non profit company, dealing with debt and benefits, I am so aware of how important every penny is, especially when you don’t have any. The fear of not having a steady paycheck coming in is the worst. So you will be having the fear of “how will I pay my bills.” In some ways I think having a strict budget can be really beneficial for your and your business. So make sure you have a budget in place. So that you won’t have to worry about your finances.
There is always that securing feeling when you’ve got a reasonable income behind you. When you run into a problem, you have cash to fix it. So to some, jumping from a W2 worker to an entrepreneur maybe challenging. I know what it means to not having that money when life struggles comes up. You’ve just have to allow and trust yourself to work it out for yourself. And that is going to make you very knowledgeable and hit your priceless moment.
If you can’t afford to build a fully function website. Teach yourself to make it from scratch. It is so easy I have done it. Can’t afford the cost to schedule and runing a social media platform? Get in close and personal and figure out how it all works and meet the people behind it. I pick a mentors that is in the same niche and pay attention to them and learned from them. I even email them for advice.
That’s why it’s not necessarily a bad thing to have a fear of finances. Because it can light a fire under your tail and push you. Have you ever hear of people who works well under pressure. Well, hello, I do. But if your not, trust me you will be skillful to it. And that’s a good thing.
- Money is a practical, so the answer here is some practical advice.
Lets use writing a blog. Write down all the expenses that you need to get your blog up and running right now. So for example, your website hosting is probably going to be included. When I calculated my start up expenses I calculated them for the year. Because in my mind, if I could afford all of them for the year right now and pay it all up front, then I was secure for 12 months. If you can’t, don’t worry, calculate monthly.
My budget for the month for my blog would look like;
- Bluehost (web hosting) bill Yearly
- Aweber (Email marketing) they bill monthly and you can use them for free for 30days.
So once those are in order it will be easy just maintain my blog.
Now, if you want to go further, write down all the expenses that your blog doesn’t vitally need but will absolutely help it grow. For example, a monthly subscription to BoardBoost for your Pinterest marketing. Or a budget for Facebook advertising. I put all these things down for review every month or at least 3 months. If I could generate enough traffic and interest in three months. I would get a good idea if my viewers were interested ans that will help to know what my investment needs to be.
Finally, write down the income that you need to generate from your business. How much do you need to generate before you can leave your job? How much do you need to cover all your living expenses? Of course, you are not going to start making that kind of money right away, but I always find it useful to have a goal to work towards. And when you meet that goal move on to the next goal.
Also, it feels kind of needless to say because you are all wonderful, smart soon to be business people but…budget. The new outift, the little sale purchases, the bottle of wine, they can all wait. Hoard your money for your business.
Remember: Entrepreneurship is “living a few years of your life like most people won’t, so that you can spend the rest of your life like most people can’t.” — Dave Ramsey said it best.
A great book i recommend that helps me stay focus is The 12 Week Year.
- Fear of Failure; You feel that you are not good enough and people will think you’re not knowledgeable:
It don’t matter if you tried and Failed, just as long as you make sure you keep trying. All your fail is just setting you up for your success. Let me tell you now, no statistics, but I know that there is no one in this world that hasn’t failed at something. Those massive successfull bloggers and fortune 500 start ups been there. They have all failed before.
The only difference between them and you is that fear of failure didn’t stop them from trying. And they kicked fear butt out the door ASAP. Now where are they now?!?!… Multibillion dollar industry.
I read an article by Mariah Coz a Femtreprenuer blogger who saids; “There may be many people who know more than you about a topic, but you only need to know more about something than the person you are teaching.” And that there is possibly one of the most inspiring bits of advice I’ve heard in my career that moved me.
For example, I know much less about computers than Bill Gates. I know much less about being a programmer than a computer science major. But that didn’t mean that I couldn’t teach my husband how to put an image into the sidebar of his upcoming food blog. He didn’t accuse me of not being knowledgeable; he just thanked me for showing him how to do it and bought me dinner.
Morihei Ueshiba – “Failure is the key to success; each mistake teaches us something.”
The very purpose of creating my blog and the many adventures to come under my brand Mommy Hustle Nation, Inc. Is to help and inspire other mom/women to be passionate about owning their own and stepping out into their greatness.
I love to share whatever knowledge I have learned, to help others become successful also. I do hope that after reading this today that you will feel inspired to go out and step out into the wonderful world of entrepreneurship and brand your awesomeness. So that we can all benefit from.
What’s the best advice you’ve ever heard for overcoming your fear? Please Share it in the comments!
Again I thank you all for reading this article and I hope it encourage and push you to start your own business. Fear has no residence over here ANYMORE.
Janielle Saddler-Barnett ❤